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Best advice I've received on sleeping well: use your bed for sleeping only, not sitting or talking on the phone, etc. Put your sleepytime clothes on only when it's time to sleep. These actions have trained my brain to engage sleep mode. Put on my tank top, lie down, turn on the fan, turn off the lamp, roll over onto my left side. (Also: Absolutely LOVE the photo of you on the beach.)

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Aug 1·edited Aug 1

Hello Jesse,

Great pictures of the "South Shore" (especially the Fogwalker one) as I like to call our beach line from Brooklyn to Montauk. Images like these always reminds me right off the bat of The Who's Sea and Sand from Quadrophenia, and it starts playing in my head automatically.

My favorite kind of day too, brooding, cloudy with the promise of rain (I'm a pluviophile, should really be living in Washington state, Ireland & or England Lol), I am happiest in that kind of environment.

Interesting topic, for the most part sleep has been a rocky relationship for me. I'm always tired & foggy in the noggin. Whenever I get a good night's sleep I wake up so happy the next day, and realize this is what a lot of people must feel like on a mostly regular basis, for me its a rarity and I'm always surprised when I actually feel refreshed. Rain helps in this respect, even a good snow storm is equally comforting/soothing.

I've gotten used to it but am willing to keep an open mind if it helps, which it should ;o)

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Merci beaucoup pour ces beaux mots et cette écriture si belle que tu as Jesse

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And I absolutely love the beach photograph. I’d love to have it framed. It’s peaceful to gaze upon.

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“someday maybe soon

we will sleep again

but it’s hard to imagine now”

This is a very good topic. Sleep is a vital part of our existence. I’ve always had trouble falling asleep and staying asleep. I’m a super light sleeper. Flapping butterfly wings could wake me. It’s something that’s been a constant challenge in my life. And when I do sleep it’s not quality sleep. I need to shift often to avoid pain.

I’ve found a sleeping schedule that works best for me. I’m going to cheat and c/p:

Biphasic sleep, also known as bimodal, diphasic, segmented, or divided sleep, is a sleep pattern that involves two sleep periods within a 24-hour period.

I don’t work 9-5 so this has been much better though I still struggle. When I was a teenager I’d sometimes tune into Bob Ross the painter and listen to him talk about happy little trees. His voice so soothing would lull me into sleep.

I’m grief stricken now and it’s been extremely difficulty to pull out of. Your song Legacies is medicine to me. By the time you’re counting I feel like a brand new person. And singing along especially the aahs and oohs feels amazing. I feel my energy rising.

I’m glad you wrote about sleep. You got me thinking all week about how I need to improve my quality of sleep. Thank you so much, Jesse. Thank you for your ☀️

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Thank you for asking and yes, you’re not alone. I’ve been waking up about three or four am. So in order to fall asleep again I read for a while. Currently I’m reading Moby Dick. I read for an hour and fall asleep again until morning. Sometimes I wake up tired but usually I wake up full of energy and excited for the beginning of a new day. I hope you sleep well next time 🌱

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For me, dreaming is transporting to a different world and it's fun (except for nightmares). But I've noticed that, the only way my body gets full rest is when I can't remember my dreams. So, sometimes I found myself questioning if it's better to dream or not, since from my dreams I also get inspiration to write.

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I rarely get more than 5 hours of sleep. I live on the west coast and work east coast hours, so I am not feeling refreshed. That said, my room is a beautiful color of the faintest powder blue. I always take a minute to be grateful and say Thank you and pray that my mother has a good day. My mother is not at home and would give anything to wake up in her own room. Be grateful.

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I go to bed late, like two o clock in de night. Because i like to wait for the quiet and then fall a sleep with de sound of rain. All sorts of rain, on a tent, on a roof, in the gras or falling trough the treeleaves. Ik like the sound of rain, and if it;s not there in real life i command my google machine to play rain sounds, all night.

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"Sleepy Time Sleepy Time Time" is what I sing to my dogs, who taught me how to sleep anywhere, anytime.

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My neighbor wakes me up nearly every morning when he backs out of his driveway. It must be the octave of the hum of his Tesla in reverse - my brain is sensitive to that tone. I've even become lucid when the hum becomes integrated into my early morning dream storyline and I slowly realize the sound is Theo's Tesla - it must be morning, stop dreaming, it's time to get up! 🤣

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I just wrote today about that very topic so thanks for this! I’ve always been a bad sleeper as I have been categorised ;) but now worse with eczema scratches in the night

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I’m usually lucky and get my 8 hours, only the moon can change this. A full moon has a strong pull and can wake me up when they are huge and extra bright🌕.

Since I’ve retired I’m doing more meditation and Hatha yoga which means l have a really deep sleep. It really slows down my mind leaving it quiet and relaxed.

Other recommendations are Magnesium taken in the evening and Epsom salts baths. They really work. I also read in bed every night, have done since l was a child so l really look forward to going to bed! Sweet dreams everyone 🙏

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Such a beautiful take on that of sleep and wake. We use every tendon of our body each using the restful energy you created in your sleep and although some day you are awake in a better mood than other, the important fact is that of waking. Not everyone gets to see another day and wiggle their fingers or toes.

Sleep is a gift to our body that relentlessly works, even if we are not. So to think sleep and waking through gratitude is remembrance of what our bodies can and just do to feel and be grateful.

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This is such an important topic--sleeping and waking. One of my fondest memories of sleeping is when I visit my sister and brother-in-law in Taiwan. Everything runs on schedule--eating, sleeping, and napping. After lunch the family takes a nap. When I'm able to do this, I'm my happiest.

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It definitely makes a difference, the art and all the particulars of sleeping. Napping in a sunbeam is a dream come true. After an active lengthy morning.

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